Prioritizing Self-Care and Personal Growth
by Colleen Barry
I had the great pleasure of spending some quiet time by a hotel
fireplace in Vermont with two of my amazing colleagues, Kristine
Newell and Jim Miller. Kristine is the Senior Vice President at
Premier Sotheby’s International Realty, one of the largest
Sotheby’s International Franchises in the United States.
She’s also the newly-published author of “The Habit of
Grateful”. Jim is the Executive Vice President and Designated
Broker of Jameson Sotheby’s International Realty’s Chicago
offices. He also has a successful coaching business and very
popular podcast called “Ask Jim Miller.”
We sat by the fire and discussed a number of professional and
personal topics, ranging from the challenges of parenting to
personal fitness routines. We discussed what motivates us and Jim
talked about how habits can drive us past the mark where motivation
ends.
I was telling them that I was rucking every morning with 25 pounds
in my rucksack. The discussion wandered into what motivates people
to prioritize their health and fitness — what is it that drives
someone to push themselves to new heights?
Kristine turned to me and said, “Alright, Colleen, what’s
in your ruck?”
I said, “This morning it was 25 pounds.”
She responded, “No. I mean WHAT is in your ruck?”
Her question about what was motivating me stymied me. I hadn’t
really thought about why I was pushing myself with a weighted
rucksack every morning, other than my desire to be more fit. The
weighted ruck certainly seemed to have symbolism in it.
I drove home from that event thinking about it. I continued to
think as I prepared for bed, and the next morning as I strapped the
weighted rucksack to my back.
I went through the list of the big things of what might be in my
ruck:
- Is it the company I lead?
- Is it my marriage?
- Is it parenthood or my son?
- Is it my own childhood?
- Is it old fears or new ones?
None of those rang the epiphany bell… until I said these
words in my head:
I’m in the ruck.
That rang the bell.
I think I’ve long put everyone else in my ruck…
sometimes carrying more than I should. I was always trying to
support others in my life. In fact, supporting others was the main
driver in what had become a very successful career! It was time I
put myself in there.
So, I think the weight in my ruck is a commitment to myself —
making myself a priority and doing it first thing in the morning.
Pushing myself to grow through challenge.
When my morning walk ends, I get back to the house and I take out
the weight plate and I exchange it for my laptop. Then I make my
family breakfast.
But, I put myself first.